I was simply cleaning the part of me that I shared with them.
— Dr. Hew Len

Once upon a time, a doctor cured an entire ward of criminally insane patients and never saw a single one of them. This astounding tale is true, believe it or not. (Just Google Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, an expert in this practice.)

How did he do it?

Everyday he would pull each patient's file and call upon forgiveness for them by first... forgiving himself. If you're wondering how healing yourself can heal someone outside of yourself, you're not alone. It sounds strange to most of us since we live in a body and perceive the world as a physical realm most of the time.

But the fact is, whatever you think of as being outside of you makes you absolve responsibility for it. If you instead internalize everything as your responsibility, you can heal it and in turn, heal what's outside of you.

Pretty remarkable, right?

I’ve heard multiple stories of people internally forgiving someone who wronged them, and then the person they forgave called or contacted them out of the blue to apologize for the very instance the other person was forgiving them for! It’s the way energy works. We all know we are made up of the same stuff, that nothing is created or destroyed. The idea that we’re all connected through this invisible energy force really is more than fantastical mumbo jumbo.

It’s science.

Total responsibility for your life, means that everything in your life, simply because it is in your life, is your responsibility.
— Dr. Hew Len

I've started practicing this Hawaiin art of forgiveness on some of my past painful memories and current limiting beliefs. As part of my first hour of the morning I read my Bible verse and pray, say my affirmations and envision my ideal future. I just added another step: Ho’oponopono. It’s healing me, and while I haven’t had any out-of-the-blue phone calls, I’m not ruling them out. The beauty of this practice is that you really don’t need it by then! You’re forgiving and you’re forgiven. It’s a beautiful, loving way to live.


Here's how you do it:

  1. “I’m sorry.”

    Step one is accepting that whatever you’re intent on forgiving is your fault. To be clear, this is the hardest part of this exercise. It starts with the belief that we are of one collective mind. What’s in you is in me and vice versa. I take responsibility for it and I apologize for my part in it—my thoughts, beliefs, etc. causing the problem.

  2. “Please forgive me.”

    It doesn’t matter who you’re asking, just ask in repentance for your role in what has happened.

  3. “Thank You.”

    Thank yourself, or thank God. Thank the universe or simply be grateful that you have this one life and you are living it well.

  4. “I Love you.”

    Say it over and over again. Love is a powerful healer.

I first heard about this practice on a YouTube video. Then I read about it in the money book Get Rich, Lucky Bitch. Then I heard about it again from someone else. I figured I was supposed to be paying attention if it kept coming up again and again, so I did.

If you haven’t heard of Ho’oponono before today, I wonder if this post was in part because you were supposed to find it. We are all connected…

xo, Jessica


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